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Taylor Swift Shares Things She’s Learnt Before Turning 30 In Elle Magazine

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American singer, Taylor Swift will be 30 in December and she is so ready for the life of 30. The singer will be reflecting on some of the life lessons she has picked up in the days leading to her 30th.

 

 

Swift has already served up some nuggets which you can read via ELLE. See some of them below:

I learned to block some of the noise.

Social media can be great, but it can also inundate your brain with images of what you aren’t, how you’re failing, or who is in a cooler locale than you at any given moment. One thing I do to lessen this weird insecurity laser beam is to turn off comments. Yes, I keep comments off on my posts. That way, I’m showing my friends and fans updates on my life, but I’m training my brain to not need the validation of someone telling me that I look ???. I’m also blocking out anyone who might feel the need to tell me to “go die in a hole ho” while I’m having my coffee at nine in the morning. I think it’s healthy for your self-esteem to need less internet praise to appease it, especially when three comments down you could unwittingly see someone telling you that you look like a weasel that got hit by a truck and stitched back together by a drunk taxidermist. An actual comment I received once.

Banish the drama. 

You only have so much room in your life and so much energy to give to those in it. Be discerning. If someone in your life is hurting you, draining you, or causing you pain in a way that feels unresolvable, blocking their number isn’t cruel. It’s just a simple setting on your phone that will eliminate drama if you so choose to use it.

 

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I’ve learned that society is constantly sending very loud messages to women that exhibiting the physical signs of aging is the worst thing that can happen to us. 

These messages tell women that we aren’t allowed to age. It’s an impossible standard to meet, and I’ve been loving how outspoken Jameela Jamil has been on this subject. Reading her words feels like hearing a voice of reason amongst all these loud messages out there telling women we’re supposed to defy gravity, time, and everything natural in order to achieve this bizarre goal of everlasting youth that isn’t even remotely required of men.

My biggest fear. 

After the Manchester Arena bombing and the Vegas concert shooting, I was completely terrified to go on tour this time because I didn’t know how we were going to keep 3 million fans safe over seven months. There was a tremendous amount of planning, expense, and effort put into keeping my fans safe. My fear of violence has continued into my personal life. I carry QuikClot army grade bandage dressing, which is for gunshot or stab wounds. Websites and tabloids have taken it upon themselves to post every home address I’ve ever had online. You get enough stalkers trying to break into your house and you kind of start prepping for bad things. Every day I try to remind myself of the good in the world, the love I’ve witnessed and the faith I have in humanity. We have to live bravely in order to truly feel alive, and that means not being ruled by our greatest fears.

It’s my opinion that in cases of sexual assault, I believe the victim. 

Coming forward is an agonizing thing to go through. I know because my sexual assault trial was a demoralizing, awful experience. I believe victims because I know firsthand about the shame and stigma that comes with raising your hand and saying “This happened to me.” It’s something no one would choose for themselves. We speak up because we have to, and out of fear that it could happen to someone else if we don’t.

Before you jump in headfirst, maybe, I don’t know…get to know someone! 

All that glitters isn’t gold, and first impressions actually aren’t everything. It’s impressive when someone can charm people instantly and own the room, but what I know now to be more valuable about a person is not their charming routine upon meeting them (I call it a “solid first 15”), but the layers of a person you discover in time. Are they honest, self-aware, and slyly funny at the moments you least expect it? Do they show up for you when you need them? Do they still love you after they’ve seen you broken? Or after they’ve walked in on you having a full conversation with your cats as if they’re people? These are things a first impression could never convey.

Realizing childhood scars and working on rectifying them

For example, never being popular as a kid was always an insecurity for me. Even as an adult, I still have recurring flashbacks of sitting at lunch tables alone or hiding in a bathroom stall, or trying to make a new friend and being laughed at. In my twenties I found myself surrounded by girls who wanted to be my friend. So I shouted it from the rooftops, posted pictures, and celebrated my newfound acceptance into a sisterhood, without realizing that other people might still feel the way I did when I felt so alone. It’s important to address our long-standing issues before we turn into the living embodiment of them.

How to fight fair with the ones you love.

Chances are you’re not trying to hurt the person you love and they aren’t trying to hurt you. If you can wind the tension of an argument down to a conversation about where the other person is coming from, there’s a greater chance you can remove the shame of losing a fight for one of you and the ego boost of the one who “won” the fight. I know a couple who, in the thick of a fight, say “Hey, same team.” Find a way to defuse the anger that can spiral out of control and make you lose sight of the good things you two have built. They don’t give out awards for winning the most fights in your relationship. They just give out divorce papers.

Read the rest here.

Photo Credit: Ben Hasset for ELLE

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T.I. Posts An Emotional Tribute To His Sister On Her Birthday

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T.I. is continuing to honor his sister Precious Harris.

On her birthday, the Atlanta rapper penned a long tribute to his older sister who passed away in February.

“Happy Birthday sis!!!! We still celebrating your life & legacy,all while missing the s**t out you at the same time. I try my best to smile knowing you’re at peace, rather than selfishly complaining about my pain,” T.I. captioned under a pic of himself and Precious. “I feel like a hater crying cause you’re not here when I KNOW you’ve been promoted to your rightful position. YOU EARNED THAT!!!! Your contributions to Atlanta,to the generations & to THIS family are immeasurable & WILL NEVER BE FORGOTTEN!!!”

 

T.I. also revealed in the caption that he’s mending broken relationships in his family, recognizing that life’s too short.

“Me & Kareem finally on good terms & speaking again… can u believe that s**t?!?!” he continued. “Kamaya still having a tough time but she gon be straight,I GOT HER…On Pops!!! Major’s doing great in school still thanx to Auntie Precious Academy… Bryce building apps and making moves in LA now.”

He also added, “Deyjah just graduated high school last week and Domani ass is actually gon graduate tomorrow….King think he grown as s**t and trying to call his own shots as usual,”

T.I. concluded, “Me & Tameka still doing what WE DO…like only WE CAN. My mama just went to a Shirley Caesar concert & said ‘Precious would’ve loved this…She got down!!!’ Messiah’s moving out into his own place & Niq Niq already grown as hell too. On Mother’s Day we gave a scholarship away in your name on Vh1 and we plan to do so every year. I thank God for all the knowledge,wisdom,guidance, love & laughter you blessed US ALL with. We Love You Forever!!! #LongLivePrecious.”

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Ne-Yo Secures $6.4M Bag From Ex-Manager Who Cheated Him Out Of Millions

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It seems that Ne-Yo’s former manager was chasing the champagne life a little too much. He now faces up to seven years in prison after fleecing his clients to afford a lifestyle of luxury. On top of his sentence, he was ordered to pay back $7.9 million in restitution with $6,456,250 going to Ne-Yo and $151,675 to Brian McKnight, HotNewHipHop.com reports on Thursday (May 23). He also owes the IRS a whopping $1.4 million.

The final verdict follows a nearly three-year long investigation into the R&B singer’s former accountant and business manager, Kevin Foster, after he was found guilty of a slew of white collar crimes including wire fraud, money laundering and tax evasion by the Department of Justice.

In 2016, a team of federal prosecutors opened an investigation into Foster for tax evasion when he filed bankruptcy for a company he had a controlling stake in. The investigation unearthed he had mislead Ne-Yo and McKnight into investing in his sports drink brand OXYwater under false pretenses.

When Foster’s finances begun to nosedive, he convinced his former clients to invest in OXYwater without informing them of his controlling stake in Imperial company, who owned the sports drink brand.

During the lengthy investigation, federal prosecutors discovered multiple instances where Foster used his position as their manager to withdraw more money from his clients’ accounts (without their permission) to fund his company. The disgraced manager further misappropriated an additional $1.5 million of Ne-Yo’s into the sports beverage without informing him.

He also forged the singer’s signature to open a new line of credit worth $1.4 million. Portions of the stolen funds went toward padding his own lifestyle, with receipts of Foster dropping top dollars on a Rolls-Royce, Bentley, Jaguar and Mercedes, expensive suits, jewelry and Super Bowl tickets.

 

 

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Drake And Rae Sremmurd Secured Fashion Collaborations With These Major Designer Brands

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TORONTO, ONTARIO - MAY 21: Rapper Drake attends game four of the NBA Eastern Conference Finals between the Milwaukee Bucks and the Toronto Raptors at Scotiabank Arena on May 21, 2019 in Toronto, Canada. NOTE TO USER: User expressly acknowledges and agrees that, by downloading and or using this photograph, User is consenting to the terms and conditions of the Getty Images License Agreement. (Photo by Gregory Shamus/Getty Images)

 

Earlier this year in February, I published an article entitled “My Tennis Fashion Thoughts.” I discussed the collaborative opportunities that popular designers have within the professional tennis industry, and how such collaborations between players and tennis brands would present a means for players to further express their personalities on the court. Since then, this year has pleasantly surprised me with a number of unexpected collaborations between tennis brands and fashion brands/ designers.

It is evident that this year tennis has shifted to becoming a sport of trends and style. It has drawn attention not just from tennis fans, but from anyone who enjoys fashion and the latest style trends. The success and attention from this year’s collaborations have the potential to propel future ideas and collaborations into motion, forever impacting professional tennis and the tennis culture. Such collaborations would bring more attention and popularity to the game, making it more mainstream and relatable.

In no particular order, here are this year’s top fashion collaborations in the tennis industry.

 

 

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