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Taylor Swift Shares Things She’s Learnt Before Turning 30 In Elle Magazine

American singer, Taylor Swift will be 30 in December and she is so ready for the life of 30. The singer will be reflecting on some of the life lessons she has picked up in the days leading to her 30th.

 

 

Swift has already served up some nuggets which you can read via ELLE. See some of them below:

I learned to block some of the noise.

Social media can be great, but it can also inundate your brain with images of what you aren’t, how you’re failing, or who is in a cooler locale than you at any given moment. One thing I do to lessen this weird insecurity laser beam is to turn off comments. Yes, I keep comments off on my posts. That way, I’m showing my friends and fans updates on my life, but I’m training my brain to not need the validation of someone telling me that I look ???. I’m also blocking out anyone who might feel the need to tell me to “go die in a hole ho” while I’m having my coffee at nine in the morning. I think it’s healthy for your self-esteem to need less internet praise to appease it, especially when three comments down you could unwittingly see someone telling you that you look like a weasel that got hit by a truck and stitched back together by a drunk taxidermist. An actual comment I received once.

Banish the drama. 

You only have so much room in your life and so much energy to give to those in it. Be discerning. If someone in your life is hurting you, draining you, or causing you pain in a way that feels unresolvable, blocking their number isn’t cruel. It’s just a simple setting on your phone that will eliminate drama if you so choose to use it.

 

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I’ve learned that society is constantly sending very loud messages to women that exhibiting the physical signs of aging is the worst thing that can happen to us. 

These messages tell women that we aren’t allowed to age. It’s an impossible standard to meet, and I’ve been loving how outspoken Jameela Jamil has been on this subject. Reading her words feels like hearing a voice of reason amongst all these loud messages out there telling women we’re supposed to defy gravity, time, and everything natural in order to achieve this bizarre goal of everlasting youth that isn’t even remotely required of men.

My biggest fear. 

After the Manchester Arena bombing and the Vegas concert shooting, I was completely terrified to go on tour this time because I didn’t know how we were going to keep 3 million fans safe over seven months. There was a tremendous amount of planning, expense, and effort put into keeping my fans safe. My fear of violence has continued into my personal life. I carry QuikClot army grade bandage dressing, which is for gunshot or stab wounds. Websites and tabloids have taken it upon themselves to post every home address I’ve ever had online. You get enough stalkers trying to break into your house and you kind of start prepping for bad things. Every day I try to remind myself of the good in the world, the love I’ve witnessed and the faith I have in humanity. We have to live bravely in order to truly feel alive, and that means not being ruled by our greatest fears.

It’s my opinion that in cases of sexual assault, I believe the victim. 

Coming forward is an agonizing thing to go through. I know because my sexual assault trial was a demoralizing, awful experience. I believe victims because I know firsthand about the shame and stigma that comes with raising your hand and saying “This happened to me.” It’s something no one would choose for themselves. We speak up because we have to, and out of fear that it could happen to someone else if we don’t.

Before you jump in headfirst, maybe, I don’t know…get to know someone! 

All that glitters isn’t gold, and first impressions actually aren’t everything. It’s impressive when someone can charm people instantly and own the room, but what I know now to be more valuable about a person is not their charming routine upon meeting them (I call it a “solid first 15”), but the layers of a person you discover in time. Are they honest, self-aware, and slyly funny at the moments you least expect it? Do they show up for you when you need them? Do they still love you after they’ve seen you broken? Or after they’ve walked in on you having a full conversation with your cats as if they’re people? These are things a first impression could never convey.

Realizing childhood scars and working on rectifying them

For example, never being popular as a kid was always an insecurity for me. Even as an adult, I still have recurring flashbacks of sitting at lunch tables alone or hiding in a bathroom stall, or trying to make a new friend and being laughed at. In my twenties I found myself surrounded by girls who wanted to be my friend. So I shouted it from the rooftops, posted pictures, and celebrated my newfound acceptance into a sisterhood, without realizing that other people might still feel the way I did when I felt so alone. It’s important to address our long-standing issues before we turn into the living embodiment of them.

How to fight fair with the ones you love.

Chances are you’re not trying to hurt the person you love and they aren’t trying to hurt you. If you can wind the tension of an argument down to a conversation about where the other person is coming from, there’s a greater chance you can remove the shame of losing a fight for one of you and the ego boost of the one who “won” the fight. I know a couple who, in the thick of a fight, say “Hey, same team.” Find a way to defuse the anger that can spiral out of control and make you lose sight of the good things you two have built. They don’t give out awards for winning the most fights in your relationship. They just give out divorce papers.

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Photo Credit: Ben Hasset for ELLE

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Meet Golden World Records Artist Khidian

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Recently we interview the p money led golden world records act Khidian and here is a thing we need to know bout him.

1. Can we meet you?

Yes, I am Khidian.. Currently an upcoming artist but I see my self soon to be the rave of the moment to burst your speakers.

2. How long have you been doing music?

Well, I have had this hunger and passion for music since I was 9, but I officially started late 2017 when I dropped my first official track ” Rich White Guy” under P MONEY Golden world Records

3. Is there any song out yet?

Yessss, I have 4 tracks already to my name but the movement is currently on “Obiageli” and it’s good positive results are coming to the table.

4. Why did you choose music over other entertaining career?

I choose Music because like I said I have had this hunger and passion for music, that’s where my talent lies in so I had to do it officially because it’s what makes me happy!

5. How long have you been in the music game?

Yeah like I said before I started officially late 2017 when I dropped my first official track ” Rich White Guy” so it’s already 2 years.

6. What’s your greatest challenge as an artist?

My greatest challenge would be not making fame get over me, I really love relating with people, meeting with new faces and getting acquainted but most artists once they have gotten to limelight they will then see others like something I can’t explain because I personally I have been humilated severally by few artists whose names I won’t mention here just because I requested for a picture to prove to friends that I actually saw them, hahahaha, it’s just a crazy world and life on the Fame game so I just hope to still be my real self and let people talk good about me as a person not just talking about my songs..

7. Apart from music what else do you do (optional)?

Nothing at all for now, all my focus right now is fully on music, going to the studio frequently and countless times spend most time writing songs, always busy on the music business so I don’t want to get myself involved on any other thing at all to avoid distractions on my music Job, so just music for now apart from I am currently enrolled in the university as a full time student of Lagos State University.

8. Which celebrity are you looking up too?

very good question haha, I am currently looking up to Wizkid and Davido, these 2 are my mentors, I am not the type that will say this one is better than this one bla bla bla, they are both doing well and I get a lot of inspirations from them both and really looking and striving hard to be on their level Grace because they are just blessed.

9. Musically, where do you see yourself in the next 3years?

Well, actually I see my self been a on time next rated artist by God’s grace, so in 3 years I see myself achieving a lot and my name will be the talk of town even an infant will nod in agreement when they mention ” Khidian”

10. how do you balance music and your relationship (optional)?

I have said this before, I am doing music alone for now, I do not need any distraction, I am not in a relationship maybe later on when need be, but for now I am married to the melody of Music and I am in a relationship with my sounds.

11. Are you signed under any record label?

Yes I am currently signed to Golden World Records with P Money the C.E.O, actually he is my brother but he signed me into his label for the music business, but I am the only signed artist there for now.

12. What message do you have for fast rising artist out there?

Consistency, do not relent unless you’re doing music for fun, but if it’s not for fun then make it a priority, let it be part of you…

Impose all of your energies and abilities on your songs so people can happily dance to your tune and feel happy whenever your name is mentioned, with that you’ve achieved greatness, and most importantly “Pray” put God first on your music career and put in your efforts, so hard work plus prayer equals excellency.

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”I Cannot Come And Kill Myself” Etinosa Says As She Shares New Photo After Her Instagram Nude Scandal With Mc Galaxy

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Over the weekend, Etinosa made news after she stripped naked on singer, Mc Galaxy’s Instagram live.

In this post she shared on her IG page this afternoon, Etinosa says she will not bow her head in shame the way people expect her to. She noted that she will use her life to teach women to learn from their mistakes, stressing that she cannot come and kill herself. Read her post below

 

Holding Your Head Up High and Standing Tall Through Your Mess
A lot of people were shocked I was already a cover girl to a magazine granting interviews and hosting shows outside Lagos- Back to work. They did not expect me to rise and shine. At least not so soon they said. They would feel better if I hide my head in shame, lay low and disappear for the rest of my life. However, I will be a bigger disappointment to the girls who look up to me if I do not show them how they could also rise above their mistakes:

– Own your mess up
– Do not let some of the greatest weapons of failure- shame and fear keep you down… And then depression sets in… Low self-esteem and the feeling you will never be anything great comes in.
-Don’t listen to that voice in your head or that acclaimed adviser Nowamagbe who constantly drums it into your ear that you have messed up and it’s the end of the road. Those people who take joy in analysing your mess up and how it will affect you rather than discussing way forward or just minding their own business all together. Cut them off. -The proof of a strong man is not the absence of wounds but exactly how he heals and rises for the next battle. Se ogun laye ni? Yes! Ogun l’awa!! And The absence of wounds only show a child who has never been in battle

-As casual as this sounds “I cannot come and kill myself” it is one of the strongest tools of motivation against suicide and other regret related reactions. -Even a righteous man shall fall several times and rise up again. So don’t beat yourself up

From recent events, I have come to realise a lot of people look up to me. Wow. Also, a lot of people dealing with shame and rejection from family and friends as well. A lot of people who have been tagged useless and worthless. Also the black sheep of families. At first I said please I’m human go and look up to Jesus Christ but then again God uses humans. As a role model I have shown you how to fall. Now, permit me to show you how to rise again like an eagle, like the Queen you are, like the Luxurious BOSS that I am. Watch this space [Next post-medium announcement – big announcement coming after the medium one lol] #ThankYouNigeria#MummyGO

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Justin Bieber And Hailey Baldwin ‘Postpone Their Wedding For A Fourth Time’

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Celebrity couple, Justin Bieber and Hailey Baldwin have reportedly postponed their wedding for the fourth time.

The singer, 25, and model, 22, who legally married in a New York courthouse in September, are said to have put their plans on ‘indefinite hold to focus on Justin’.

A source told People: ‘They will still have a wedding eventually, but this is not their focus right now.

‘They haven’t sent out any new save the dates. They will wait until Justin feels better and is excited about planning their wedding again.’

This comes after Justin recently revealed that he has been ‘struggling a lot’ in a candid Instagram post on Saturday.

 

 

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